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Women & Horses by Mary D. Midkiff - horseback riding fitness techniques for women

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October 2001

Dear Mary - I spent the weekend lavishing in your wonderful "She Flies Without Wings" and it has come into my life at such a perfect time. As a child, like you, I was a horse - my father said a racehorse - "all legs". Recess at school was a ritual of us "fillies" flying out to our corner of the school yard where we would scratch our stalls into the dirt and take turns being released and running in the field by the "farmer". ( a position nobody wanted but we had to take turns). My reality with horses has always been limited to weekend trail rides - afternoons on rental horses and weekends at the Flying U Ranch once a year. Yet, horse has always been in my blood.

I am fortunate to have found a man who was a cowboy in his last life (he thinks) and is an accountant in this one. His passion for horses and intrigue at "city slickers" led us to my giving him a cattle roundup adventure for his 50th birthday. A nightmare story - suffice to say that my young Arab mount decided he'd had enough of me and my 48 year old bones hit the rocks from a full gallop. Hurt pride, severely hurt pelvis - no breaks. End of planned week long adventure on 2nd day. It was time to look at some things that were not coming together for me. My tenseness and hesitancy in life was being reflected back at me by this marvellous creature. Deep inside, I had known I was down long before I hit the ground.

Back in Vancouver - Larry wisely suggested that I get back on the horse - this time at lessons. Over and over again - I feel the fear and do it anyway. I have discovered I am actually afraid of horses. These magnificent animals that I have always identified with are very patient with me. Slowly we are mounting my fear of grooming, saddling and handling their glorious forms. It challenges me twice a week as I enter their stalls. The fear rising up as fast as my heart rate. As I have persisted and face this fear - my life is changing.

I am the mother of two grown girls - 23 and 25. When my eldest was 14, she became very ill with what was diagnosed as "chronic fatigue" her synchronized swimming, school and health went out the window. Conventional medicine couldn't help. The naturopathic supplements were adding up and not much was changing. I met a woman who told me of another practice - Homeopathy. After one visit to the homeopath - I had my daughter back. The vitality flowed back into her and I was hooked. It would take 2 years before I was ready and had listened to myself enough - I returned to school to study homeopathy at 41.

I have found my passion - homeopathy. But what to do with it - I opened my practice and yet something was missing. Where was the joy at seeing health return? Along the school path, I was drawn to a book called "The Secret Language of Eating Disorders" by Peggy Claude-Pierre. Although I have never had any personal experience with Anorexia/bulimia - her story riveted me. I completed my paper for graduation on Homeopathy and Eating Disorders. Yet, I didn't pursue this area - I now see that this was my stuckness. This was what is now flowing, thanks to riding. It is as if the creative juices and drive have been freed by those trusting beauties who carry me on their backs every week.

As for your book - I began to turn down pages when I found them particularly inspirational - suffice to say that more than 1/3 of the pages are now neatly folded down. Of course, a big smile came to my face when I saw that you have made mention of homeopathy and how it has touched your and your horse's lives.

So life has come full circle for me, from the horse I loved to be as a child, through healing and onward towards my speciality of treating people who suffer with eating disorders via homeopathy. I incorporated my practice 2 years ago under the name "Pegasus Classical Homeopathy" - this after asking the universe for a name and being drawn to a sculpture in a story a week later. My Pegasus sits proudly on my desk, ready to take flight. Just like me.

I hope to inspire my patients towards health with homeopathy and with horses. I plan to set up a program similar to the physical therapy programs that are done with horses. I know that their spirits can soar, and thank you for being an important part of my path towards this passion.

Much success with your program and book. I'm going to dust off that exercise ball and take up your fitness advice as well. Any chance you are planning a trip into this neck of the woods. Perhaps I could arrange something for you here? I look forward to hearing from you, if time permits. With much affection, Bev VanHatten, Pegasus Classical Homeopathy

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August 2001

Hi Mary - I just wanted to applaud you for bringing women's fitness into riding. As a women riding instructor and fitness competitor (Galaxy) I have seen how important it is to be in shape to ride. Some of my students that are in their late 40's, early 50's I have encouraged to also set time to work-out. It is very difficult for them if they have been in the office all day and then come out to ride their horses and cannot physically do what I want them to try when riding. I always wanted to put fitness and riding together and never been able to take the time to write or do a video. I am glad to see some-one is taking the time to help women achieve more with their riding. - Sincerely, Shannon Slyfield

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August 2001

Hi Mary, I recently read "She Flies" and I must commend you on just how wonderful, touching and flowing this book is. It is, without a doubt, my favorite book and a beautiful essay. The quotes and anecdotes from other horsewomen were very thoughtful and each section was inspired. These words came directly and effortlessly from your soul and I thank you for them. I wasn't always a horse lover (or at least I didn't know I was). I started to ride after discovering horses in veterinary school and it's the best thing I ever did. It has made me more patient, centered and giving. I thank you for putting into words all those thoughts we try so desperately to explain to our families as they wonder what we see in these majestic creatures. Respectfully, Miriam Samet

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August 2001

Dear Mary, I have just finished reading - no absorbing - She Flies Without Wings. I have been so moved. So many messages and parallels and compassionate and helpful passages which strike chords and awaken emotions which I have not shared with anyone - even if I had the words, such as you do, to describe what I feel I am not sure who I could trust with it. Imagine my surprise and joy to read your pages and feel as if I could have written them myself....(if only!!) In mid 40's, proud owner of too many horses & ponies to do them all justice (I do my best) and always, at the moment learning, about them, about myself and feeling something incredibly overwhelming occurring as I take things to a different level. Thanks!! I also realised that what I was really missing was a human herd of like-minded, still searching. I had just about given up on that one but your words have inspired me to keep searching- dont give up! I have been to colorado, Boulder and surrounding country and dream again of it often. Not likely to make it back there for a while but your book also allowed me to see, sense, smell and experience riding there again, for a while. I see you made it to england. Are you coming again? It would be great if you could bring your programme to the UK. Many thanks again. Chris

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